yes, good strong boundaries....not handing over the keys to the kingdom right away.....keeping home, possessions and finances SAFE. but also understanding there are those that can fly under even the best radar.....so unless we move to the bunker, we are exposed to some degree.
i think it's also important to learn what those red flags are. and honor ourselves....if we feel uncomfortable for any reason, that's ok. we respond with our own safety and well being first. if we DO get it wrong, well, so be it. we are not concerned with what the other person MIGHT think or feel, we stay in ourselves and listen to our own thoughts, feel our own feelings.