Alcoholic/Addict siblings destruction and abuse
I have been in recovery for 24 years with one relapse
and I just celebrated 7 years clean and sober last month.
I am a survivor of multiple violent assaults, diagnosed with PTSD
and disabled, not on disability with severe chronic pain issues
yet I am still clean and sober from alcohol and narcotic
pharmaceuticals. I have overcome many hardships.
I have a beautiful sister who has no issues with alcohol and drugs.
We have 2 alcoholic/addict brothers who have been using for over 40 years
and are utterly completely bankrupt. They are both educated
and virtually unemployable. Thanks to my efforts our 84 year old
wealthy mother has realized that adult childrens' substance abuse
is not the parents' fault. It is a disease, a mental illness, which requires treatment.
Get with the program/be in the solution or not.
It is a choice.
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Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with
themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.
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They are totally dishonest and been taking money from the family
for decades. I hope she sees the light and now and cuts them both
lose because they are just taking us all down.
Both of them have put my life at risk in the past
and I have zero tolerance for abusive men,
and if they are brothers than it's even more deplorable.
An oldtime AA man in my area said that with people like this the only choice is;
"Stop giving them money. They will have to get on some public assistance."
Even if by some miracle they were to get clean and sober
so what are we supposed to do after 40 years of destruction and abuse.
Are supposed to hold their hand, clean up their mess,
and give them all of our money? Parents who enable family members
by giving them money are doing a huge disservice to the rest of the family.
This is all common sense.
Recovery 101.