Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
HE turned all your worlds upside down. Don't put the blame on you. If he wasn't an angry alcoholic, life would not be so miserable for you and your children.
I wouldn't bring it up - you're right, it will just cause a fuss.
Thankyou. I guess it’s just not how he will see it and how the kids will see it too. When he’s quite happy to maintain the status quo. I guess this is me putting my boundaries in place now. No more ever including him or expecting him to be involved in family plans and moving forward I make sure it doable for me on my own.