Thanks minnie for the image advice. Not sure if I read that other post. Going to look.
As far as my xabf, he admitted to the lies. But he excused it as having been months ago AND by stating that though he's no angel he's never HAD to lie like this before. That he knew sooner or later it would all come crashing down and he'd lose both women (boo hoo). That this last year has been rough for him etc. I am so furious by this because it's not as though anyone forced him into a situation where he'd have to lie. HE DID IT HIMSELF! And I know better than to believe he's never "had" to lie before.
Anyway I am better today.