Breaks my heart that this is happening to you but as said above you need to move on, You sound very sweet and and intelligent, compassionate. You do deserve better. By the way did you say that his family disowned him because his sister could not move into your one bedroom apartment? Something wrong with his family, too. I had to spend mandatory jail time for DUIs. I was not in a relationship then but there were people there that had been in and out and in and out and they were young, some were still married and many had kids. As soon as they got out they went back to using. And some of them were intelligent and charming. They just couldn't quit. Some said they could not wait to be shooting up again,'And there was one that was a bit older whose HUSBAND had called the cops when she was high. She got 8 months.