soinlove, first of all I'm sorry that you are feeling so anxious about not hearing back, etc. I know that feeling. My AH worked out of town a lot. During a 4 month stint a couple of years ago, the same thing happened. His pattern of contact changed, and it became more about what he wanted to do when we wanted to do it. We didn't fit into his schedule. Then we flew out for a visit, and I found alcohol in the pantry in his apartment. I went to the grocery store and came back, and a good third of the bottle was gone. I don't want to scare you, but it sounds very similar. Contact during the workday didn't change much, but it did during off hours. I'm glad that you have a good job. I hope you don't leave it now and move until you know more. Can you go for a visit?