A jerk. My husband had all those characteristics that's you mentioned. When I filed for divorce and left I never heard from him. I was married for 5 years. Even if he knows his alcohol caused a lot of problems, he wanted to do nothing about it. It was his way or the highway. Some people in life lack empathy . Some of them are alcoholic, some narcissists and some both. My husband moved on a month after I left. On his hunt for a richer, sexier woman . Your goodness won't matter. Your heart won't matter. He will come back over and over if he's still getting the ego supply from you. Once he knows you've seen through him- it'll be the end. Just concentrate on yourself and you deserve better.