Originally Posted by
soinlove 
... plans in place for me to move soon or as soon as I can.....
We are each very intelligent, responsible, high functioning people with good paying jobs......
I too hope not to sound harsh here, but out of your entire post, these two sentences jumped out at me.
If you follow through with these plans to move, you might end up totally dependent on HIM, having left your high-paying job. Is this what you want your life to look like in a few years?