Hi akrasia,
Not being familiar with your situation I read one of your old threads from 2010, where you said:
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akrasia 
Back about a month ago, we were having a talk about alcohol. He said he was glad to be sobering up but he wanted to drink socially someday in the future.
We were having a gentle talk, not an argument, but I did say: "Yeah, but then if you know that alcohol likes to get its claws in you, why not just avoid the whole thing and have juice or a Coke? You can be the guy who drinks Coke, that can be your thing."
He sort of got annoyed and said, "See, you're trying to woo me into your way of thinking..."
Perhaps when he brings up counselling you can use that same line he used 8 years ago?
Hang in there!