This reminds me of my marriage. My husband was very clear - he was not going to give up alcohol. He was a binge drinker. It was causing our marriage to fall apart. He even told me - if I wasn't happy with how things were, I was free to leave and not let the door hit me on my way out. Guess what I did - I left. Filed for divorce. He has made the divorce a living hell but I am standing up and I am staying strong through it. My way or the highway is an easy attitude to adopt in theory. Now when his finances are on the table - his way does not seem like a very good idea to him. Either way. I never heard from him. There were a lot of things that this divorce brought out to the firefront for me. He is still drinking. Found someone pretty fast who would support his habit. 6 months is all that it took for him to start seeing someone else. Don't waste your time and emotions on a man who is so blind to everything and hell bent on destroying himself