What is the point? You don't want him to drink, he refuses to quit. That's pretty cut and dried.
He is agreeing to go to counselling based on the fact that somehow you will have an epiphany and decide you are happy to live with him drinking?
I think I'm just looking for a reality check.
I think your reality meter is spot on.
The only way you can reunite with your Husband is if you accept his drinking. Can you do that? He has been very clear where he stands, which is actually a good thing, horrible for your marriage, but at least he isn't being manipulative and trying to string you along with promises to quit, then "relapsing".
Are you wrong to question this situation? Not at all. But the facts here are the facts. He does not want to quit drinking. Period. Unless you are willing to be ok with that (and I mean really ok, living with him drinking, no spying on how many drinks he's had, which bar he was at and for how long, how many empties are in the garbage) then how can it work?