Thanks for all the support!
For me I have this trend in my childhood of "not knowing". So the realization of this and actually knowing helps me a lot. My family are a bunch of secret keepers so for me just KNOWING something is a big breakthrough. My dad was adopted and they hid that from me until high school and I remember this odd feeling in elementary when doing family trees...I remember being so anxious about mine and not knowing why. Family secrets keep you sick for sure!
For little E (my daughter) I want to break that cycle of keeping secrets!