Originally Posted by minnie
You know, perhaps he's not calling because that's what he would have done anyway, you just didn't give him the chance to show you because you called him all the time.
To me, that is what detachment is all about. Unless we detach, we cannot see anyone's true colours.
Minnie: Thank you. I am noticing all the subtle enabling I have done and still am doing.........this really helps me understand more clearly what is and isn't enabling.
Jess: I understand your feelings.......thanks for posting this; I need the reminders,too. It is hard; makes me feel like some out-of-control teeny-bopper somedays. (Only I had much better boundaries back then.)
You sound as if you are doing great sticking to keeping your boundaries.