Very well written, cece. As a parent who has gone through losing my son to addiction, I "get" every word you are saying.
As the parent of an addict, all the old rules go upside down, as does our world.
I too had to learn to not enable...which meant to not help my so when he cried and felt that he needed help most. "Not helping" was the best way to "help" and that would only make sense to the parent of an addict.
Your son is in my prayers, I am walking with you all the way here.