I really don't understand any of this. Why is acknowledging a quit date a big threat to sobriety? To me it's not important either way. That's the least of my concerns. So what's important? Learning to live so I don't put myself under too much stress, learning not to be so dependent on others, taking it easier on myself, learning not to be too compulsive, perfectionist, trying to enjoy what time I have left (or must I not think about that one either?) trying to help others without thinking of myself as some kind of a big shot, like I know all the secrets. Quit date? Who cares when I quit? I don't really. All I know is that I quit. Maybe I don't know why I quit, or how I quit or how anyone else should quit. I don't really care. All I care about is that I'm sober. It was the toughest thing I ever had to do and at least I did that.
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