TU posted this before and I always ignored it at first but it really helps. What got me a lot was that the AV can present itself in the form of feelings and also the other one that I needed to have hammered home was that any lack of confidence in the ability to abstain is AV.
"Originally Posted by The Art of AVRT®, Pages 124-125
Functions of the Addictive Voice
Conceal its existence by using the pronoun, "I."
Conceal addiction's primal, pleasure motive.
Justify continued self-intoxication.
Deny the moral dimension of self-intoxication.
Minimize the bad effects of self-intoxication.
Maximize, romanticize positive effects.
Character assassination, global — self and others.
Dignify use of the substance; absolve guilt, responsibility.
Undermine confidence to abstain.
Build socal tolerance for self-intoxication.
Siege, wear you down.
Identify opposition, narcs, moralists as enemies.
Create a support network of other addicted people to act as a safe harbor, provide primary social needs, and to legitimize addiction.
Guarantee perpetual supply of the substance and opportunities to use it.
Manipulate all situations to serve itself.
Organize all thoughts, values, and policies in its own interests.
Emulation of human affairs, of human roles, of human attitudes, of mature human functioning.
Excerpted from "The Art of AVRT®" by Jack Trimpey
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