I find it amazing as I continue reading RR, how much my AV was there but I did not recognize it as such.
I had the "Never say never" debate.
The I had a bad childhood/depression excuse, etc.
When in reality, I drank b/c IT wanted to get trashed.
By the end I truly thought I had split personalities. I wanted to stop so bad & yet drink too. I would argue for hours on end, writhing in emotional turmoil until I finally gave in to It.
Now, it is fabulous to not have to argue. I can now say I will NEVER drink again & nothing will change my mind.
My problems are still there, I can work on them if I choose or not. It is irrelevant. My life is simply better b/c I don't drink anymore.
I realize now when I first quit drinking, I had not read RR. My AV was telling me I HAD to work on "issues" or I wouldn't be happy. So I got into trying the "steps" to work out problems. This only caused me distress & kept the AV working on wearing me down in other ways than blatantly saying "drink". Very sneaky the beast is indeed.
If you have not read RR the book. I encourage you to. It is helping me "see" things I overlooked.