Thank you for your encouragement and suggestions. In reading them, I realized I really needed to look at my motives for asking him to leave. Though I do need space, part of it was about banishing him and punishing him for what he's put me through. A month is arbritrary; he's been sober for a month before and it doesn't mean anything long term. And the money is better spent saving in case I do end up filing. So, we agreed that he would go to his brother's for the weekend, so I could have some breathing room. I've investigated some places I could go after that if I still do not want to be in the same house with him for a period of time. I know I need to focus on myself, and stay in my lane, and protect my finances so no matter his journey, I'll be able to pay my bills and move forward. That"you can't control it" phrase continues to be one of the hardest ones for me to learn, and dang if I don't keep trying to! But today's a new day, right? 😁