Hi Westgirl. I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. You sound like a loving, strong, courageous woman.
I don’t know what your situation is. Would it be possible for YOU to leave for a month? It might be nice for you to get out of the situation, to take control yourself. Do you have a family or friend you could stay with? Could you afford to rent a place somewhere for a month? When I left my husband I stayed with my mom for a while. It was nice. She had a guest room for me. Every night we sat by her fireplace and talked. If I wanted to be alone I could close the door. It was peaceful.
If you believe that a month apart would be good for you, then make it happen. Do it. Don’t back down and don’t let his addiction control you.
It’s a good first step toward your own recovery.
Love and hugs from Sailor ⚓️