Originally Posted by Berrybean

Welcome Lana.

Good on you for taking your life back.
Top tip - don't expect him to come to like it, or understand your perspective. And be ready to report any more violence towards your possessions or yourself to the police. My dad was a 'bit of a nuisance' to my mum when she left him. After the police came and got him a few times his bitterness increased (as it was likely to anyway, because nothing was ever His fault), but he did keep a low profile.

I dunno if you use social media at all, but if you do I'd suggest NOT putting any of this stuff on there, and asking any mutual friends to not report back to you on anything he has said. All that stuff just adds drama and keeps everything going for longer. Just stick with your closest friends or somewhere that anonymity is valued and respected - as someone else mentioned, AlAnon is worth exploring.

I hope he simmers down soon.

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