Originally Posted by
PuzzledHeart 
Al-Anon is a great idea. However, given the history of resentment between you two, I'm not sure if you are the best person to deliver that message.
Your suggestion, which may have the best of intentions, may come off as "Hey, I know you're divorcing me because of my drinking, but the one who really needs help is YOU." It sounds too much like blameshifting. You run the risk of having him completely tune you out.
If you do say something, I would say it once then drop it. However, this is one of those cases where I'd let someone else be the messenger.
I agree with this and what others are saying that I can only work on myself and not control how he thinks or feels. I'm responsible for explaining things to my son as well. It would just be so much easier if each side could understand each other. But 'tis life and I'll just cope the best I can. Thanks for allowing me to come to this side of the fence and ask my question.