Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
yeah, playing house and pretending to still be involved is confusing for everyone, especially the children. it's time to draw your line in the sand....you are either done with this phase and ready to move on, or you are not. you either continue to let his alcoholism run your life, or you do not. you are both playing Come Here, Go Away and that is a very destructive endeavor.
I want to be ready to be done with this phase. It is absolutely destructive. I do so much better when I don't see him or hear from him for longer periods of time.
I believe he will eventually disappear completely once I draw that line.
For me, that would hurt, but I know it would be the best thing.
But not for the boys. I don't want to make things more confusing for them, but I also don't want them to lose him completely.