Originally Posted by
Babescake 
I'm the alcoholic (currently in recovery, though I relapsed awhile ago, since sober again), and I'm getting a divorce. My husband has refused any counseling/therapy, substance abuse education. I keep telling him he should go to Al-Anon because he clearly has resentments and I think it would be very beneficial for him.
We have a young child we will be raising together so I think it is imperative he understands the disease so we can keep things civil and communicate effectively. To those who have went (and I know HE has to want to go, just like it is up to ME not to drink), do you find it beneficial and think it would be good for our family, even though we're divorcing?
I went for a while Babescake. I find it a good place to connect with other family members, and there is a focus on self care, boundaries which I find useful. I feel like it focuses a lot on control / codependency issues. Do you think he would identify with that aspect? In terms of education about addiction eehh I think seeing a therapist would be much better because Alanon really only brings in the 12 step model which wasn't sufficient for me. Also, I didn't really find it to be focused on the family, just the family member, You do your thing, your addict does their thing. It might help with his resentments, never hurts to suggest he try it.
Do you think he might consider doing family therapy where the two of you could focus on the healthiest way to co-parent? My guess is that it would open up the door for deeper issues to be discussed.
There is a thread on here that has a link to the Pleasure Unwoven video on youtube. That might be something you could forward to him, its about 30 minutes and really informational. Ive seen a couple people say it was played for family members in a rehab setting.
My FIL is going to try to get my MIL to watch it. She has been having a hard time with my husbands addiction issues. She does go to Alanon though and she likes it. Has made friends.