Before marrying AW, I did use some online dating sites, and met some nice ladies. Nothing worked out long-term, but usually be communicating online and via phone prior to meeting, it was easy to filter out the ones who didn't seem to 'fit'. I will admit I did go thru some of the same things you mentioned, jada.
Now, after the divorce is finally final with AW, I'm not sure what my immediate path will be, but I would like to date again. That I will be a single dad will probably afford me less opportunities to get out and mingle, so I met head back to the online scene.
Best of luck to you. I do agree with others not to focus on this aspect of life, just let it be. Also, maybe look inward and ask why you need to have someone validate who you are - I'm certain you are a wonderful person in your own right, so be happy with you and all that you are.
COD