I started over at 53 when AH died.
The swipe-right-or-left site, I thought was for NSA hookups. No?
This is what I observed about my own journey. When I was feeling lonely and desperate, the ads or profiles I wrote for myself stunk. When I was busy with work or friends and activities, I could scribble out a great ad in ten minutes.
Originally Posted by
Eauchiche 
People research a new car better these days than a spouse.
I had a list of deal-breakers. It didn't make things harder. It made things easier. Once I saw a deal-breaker, I knew that was the end. I didn't have to waste another cup of coffee/beer/evening with someone who wasn't going to ever get a divorce/was a smoker/ wanted a polyamorous relationship.
Bottom line, I had to fix in my head the idea that I was going to be okay if I never found a partner. If I did find someone, that would be icing on the cake.