Originally Posted by
doggonecarl 
If there is a function where there is drinking, then it's not work. And maybe not so important to attend.
This, and if you must go it's strongly recommended to have an exit plan in place if things start to get hard.
Being around drinking is the hardest for me because my brain tries to tell me I'm missing out and then it circles around to how I screwed up and it's my fault and the whole thing kind of loops and cycles in my head. I end up feeling like I'm being punished for something.