Yes therapists. Haha. I am one but totally blind to myself jn this area. The therapist j saw when I wanted to divorce my husband 8 years ago told me that. I dismissed it because I had little kids. My therapist when I actually did get divorced 5 years ago focused on telling everyone (including ABF) what I expected and insist that my needs are met. I agreed but couldn’t implement it. I’m amazed at how firmly I believed that I was “supposed to” be nice or care for everyone. Still struggling but the moments of awareness feel good.