Hi Buckley. In my experience, we start by moving away from the source of pain and suffering. We can only be motivated by fear and panic for so long, however. Like in war, boredom sets in and you start to miss the pain and fear a little bit. But as you know, that way lies perdition, so you have to find something good to move toward. Self love was a good start for me. I don't mean curling up in a warm blanket with a tub of Ben & Jerry's, but thinking about hey, what can I do that will enrich my life experience and give me back the self respect I once had? Just a thought.