Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Ovity....one other concept....In a voluntary, intimate relationship such as with a boyfriend....it is wiser to base decisions about commitment on the present realities...present behaviors....rather that on future "potential".
We all have more "potential". Sometimes it is utilized...and, sometimes it is not. That is up to the individual person, as to how they will press forward.
So, I think it is better to consider present, known realities before hitching our wagon to a particular star......
That reminded me of this:
"I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism"
-Elizabeth Gikbert