Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
remove the actions and look at the thoughts of a functioning alacoholic. typically they arent functioning.
I would like to stay with him and see him walking next to me, reaching his goals while I'm doing the same
wee bit of a problem with this. first, it reads like you really dont know this man sober.
second, you may not like who is walking next to you sober.
3rd, what your looking at is YOUR thoughts on how he will be when hes walking next to you when in reality you dont even know how he will be sober because youve never known him that way.
reality vs dream there.
I know him sober but maybe not when he is not "addicted" to something, you are right. I am basing my dreams off of what he tells me that he wants to do. I never have specific expectations of someone until they share a plan with me. Yet, I see your point and think you may be right. It sucks that we can't get straightforward answers or solutions about this.