Brammy,
Life is all about choices and what's best for you..I'm in Alanon for 15 months now and I see all sorts of people making choices..I don't judge..I just made the best choice for me..
For me - I could not stand being in a relationship with an alcoholic..the last time we broke up..was the last time because I stayed away..
today I'm dating a wonderful responsible man who is not an alcoholic..
People who do stay make appropriate choices for them and they do have a level of acceptance..