Welcome to SR, beatlebaillie; very glad that you found us.
You will find an abundance of support, understanding and encouragement here.
My suggestion is to stay strongly focused on your recovery and the wellbeing of your soon-to-be born wonderful little guy.
Please don't allow yourself to be swayed or manipulated by your boyfriend. You owe it to yourself and your little one to remain strong and committed to recovery.
We cannot change someone else; it is up to your boyfriend to want and to seek recovery.
There is a wonderful life ahead for you and your son; it is up to your boyfriend to decide if he wants to be a sober and clean part of that goodness.
Again, welcome. so glad that you are here with us.