Welcome DT121. I hope we can support you here at Soberrecovery.
Please give Alanon a try. It isn't for everyone but has helped some. It will also help you educate yourself about codependency and alcoholism.
Also the book Codependent No More is a bit of a bible around here. If you are at all a reader you may find it helpful.
Big hug and take care. What you are going through is no joke. Get all the support you can.