Seren -
Yes that's it - I'm in a 'Shame storm'. Thank you for putting a name to it. That was so very helpful. And yes, it seems that it doesn't take much to trigger them lately.
I go back and forth everyday trying to decide if what I did should cause me so much shame. Some days I think I'm fooling myself. I think I should feel ashamed of what I did. I'm stuck trying to figure out how much I need to own. The other person was certainly not perfect - but did they do to me what I did to them? And then I'm not sure that I *want* to apologize to this person - which causes me more confusion...and shame.
I meditated this evening. I fear it's going to take me some time to sort this all out...and feel good about myself.
I am thankful for the insights you and others have shared on this topic. It is so helpful.
Stella