youve benn in the relationship for a year.
he has gone drunk on many occasions.
you kicked him out for his drunken behavior.
he got drunk in less than a month.
you had to call the cops to get him to leave.
you dont trust him.
you want to be the sober police for an adult.
you set a boundary and already lowering it.
now 5 whole days of no f2f contact.
speaking every day about the happenings- what exactly do you think youre going to hear differently from him? are you hoping for a 5 day miracle?
all that in a year, and im sure theres more.
im willing to lay money on the alcohol problem was a problem before you came into the pucture.
im a recovered alcoholic. 5 days of not drinking didnt change much in me other than i wasnt drinking. it took a LONG time to straighten out mentally and emotionally.
however, i loved when i was in a relationship with a woman that would do similar as you. it let me know i still had my hostage.
every single time, everything got worse.
when those woman tossed me to the curb, it was the best move they made- for themselves. no one- absolutely no one could keep or get sober.
no matter the laws of probation they put me on.
no matter how they felt about and for me, they were wise to walk away.
i hope you dont allow youre feeling override what youre gut is telling you.