Well, just to keep this on the topic of Adult Children issues, this impending death of a cat is hitting me like a ton of bricks -- which was NOT the case with the death of either of my parents! I felt only relief, in both cases, when I got the news that they were gone. My Mom, it was after a hellish 11-month death spiral, and I was just glad it was over. My Dad, it was after a hellish 47-year battle with a raging, alcoholic control freak (who had a lot of redeeming qualities, as you guys know -- these things are never clear-cut, like you see on TV). The cat, he's been totally unconditional, the whole 15 years. It's a different thing. And it's hitting much harder than the 'rents kicking off. Which you're not supposed to say, in most circles, but you can here....
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