Brammy, I have to agree with all of the above, especially with YOUR RECOVERY must come first.
I spent 45 years of my life trying to please everyone around me only to find that "less is most often more" when it comes to relationships where people are in denial. Friendships like the tides come in and go out. If they are meant to be it will happen easily without working so hard. In Al-Anon I found the closest thing to unconditional love here on earth. I also learned I MUST be the person God created me to be not matter what. Mature adults can agree to disagree if all are willing to accept each other as they are, not as they want me to be.
I often have to ask myself " How much of me do I have to give up to have this person or persons in my life?" Or How much is my serenity worth to me?
Remember it's One day at a time. Progress not perfection.