Hi Bonbon,
None of this is your fault.
((((((((((((((((Hugs and Prayers to you and your daughter))))))))))))))))))))).
When my sons Dad passed away I looked into Rainbow gRoups for children going through crisis.
1-800- 266-3206 or
www.rainbows.org to find out where they are in your area.
The book I got is "Healing the hurt, Restoring the Hope."
Kids handle death a lot better than we do and the best thing to do for a child is be honest with all the way through the crisis.
Ngaire