My husband has been sober and not working a program. I find he is very selfish and manipulative. I also find that he is confused and slow about routine tasks unless they're so engrained in him. I do think he has a hard time processing and recalling details.
I am wondering what you are doing for yourself? He might be noticing your behavior. What helped me is to get so involved in me that his behavior doesn't bother me as much. Today he acted like a young child.