Ok that makes sense. Hope for the best but expect the worst. As far as asking me what I need, then only half giving it, do the same? Very, very hard to do. I'd say impossible. I know I should be more compassionate, but I'm hurt that once again, alcohol steals everything away.
Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
I wish there was a "to-do" protocol to make this stuff easier but there isn't.
In reality here's how I would play this in my mind - he accepts the offer for work/money & I ....... don't expect to see that money until it's in my hand. Instead of freaking out mentally, I get used to the idea that the money may not arrive & work on what I'm going to do about it. If it appears, awesome. If not - hopefully I either have a Plan B or at least acceptance that I couldn't control it no matter what.
No expectations. Yes, it sucks.