I have learned from the old timers here to accept what is ,is . I can no longer drink alcohol an I accept this 100 percent . However I asked the same questions as you many times over the years and never got definitive answers . My personal opinion is all three elements can overlap at some point in out lives . I have heard of men and women becoming alcoholics when they retire from a responsible job in their 60s .
Me ! I loved the taste and effect of alcohol at 13 years old.
There are so many stories so many different situations and circumstances . If you find the truth please let us know .