I went to dinner with his family. I'm 10 minutes from the hospital so it felt like the right thing to do to at least see his parents and get an update. He's been asking for me but I haven't gone. I don't want to see him like that.
I spoke to a therapist this morning. I've been to him before concerning other issues and thought it could help. He thinks that total abandonment of the situation will be damaging to both me and my "boyfriend."
He told me to love from a distance, set boundaries, and be encouraging when and if I go to see him. I do care about my "boyfriend" seeking treatment. I know that I can't make him, but could I be an inspiration?
I don't know what experience my therapist has with these situations. I feel like it's good advice as long as I stick to my boundaries (whatever those are...I need a plan). Any thoughts or suggestions from others with experience?