Dont Remember AH friend has no interest in me at all just a very good man. I have to be careful with my words because I know AH still reads my posts on occasion. As far as taking care of myself I am doing well. I still attend alanon, therapy and just last week had a ridiculously fun night out with 8 friends. I think the message from the friend validated for me that all this behavior from AH is not about me. I shouldn't need validation outside myself but what can I say Im still a work in progress.