Hayfmr
Own your own stuff, Stayed too long, didn't do X, Y or Z...
You can't fix their views with conversation but by example. Enjoy you life. Keep in mind while you are free of your ex, your kids are not.. They are joined for life like it or not. The anger you may receive is toward your ex and since you are the other parent, well you are the only target...
MO anyway..
AG