Recovery is super selfish. It ticked me off too when my XAH went to rehab, then took off almost an entire year after. Wow.
I wish I had something that would require me to go on a little retreat for 30 days then have the time to focus intently on ME.
I think it comes down to many, many times drinking is not the only issue. You have to figure out what is a deal breaker, and be strong enough to follow through. It's hard.