Understanding what codependency meant was one of the main keys to my starting to get a grip on why my life had been the way it had been for all those years. It was about me and XAH, sure, but it was about a whole lot more than that, too--work, friends, family, life in general.
So much looked different. So much made sense now. It changed, and is still changing, everything, as it was the beginning of so much ongoing learning and searching.
Hope you find the same, Wama.