Carter.....he has only been in the sober house for 2 months and HE is wanting to come home, soon....You say that he h as been sober only "a little over 2 months" (total?).....and that he has embraced spirituality.....
The "spirituality" part reminds me of the guys that become "born again" while in prison and forget all about that when they return to life in the outside world.
I, like you, have some reservations about this short time period...about ten weeks....
My husband and I owned an Oxford House, once...and, the average stay was 6 months to 1 a nd 1/2 year. (they got passes for visits with family)....
The fact t hat you have no idea what you would do if he relapsed after coming home.....don't you think that means that you need more time, yourself...to work on yourself....?