Thanks for all the replies,
The summary seems to be whilst there may be a disposition to drink, there is a way to over-ride it by an attitude change.
ljc267 ... I'm mostly those things when I drink
Also best I be a good role model for my daughter.
Since I've been on SR, I have cut down my drinking severely and it shows as I have been in a better relationship with my wife and daughters.
BUT I know I have to cut it out altogether and still working on it. Doctor has recommended a men's mental health program which will form the basis of my plan.
Regards All
JS