It's a tough spot to be in to be sure. Unfortunately, as some of the other posters have already mentioned, she has to want to save herself and be willing to do the work required to make that happen. There isn't enough love in the world to make an addict or alcoholic quit. It's entirely up to them. For me, I've found that love may humble people (in a good way), but it's only pain that really changes them. Best wishes to you.