Ok, I can see your point there. That does make sense. Then I guess my problem is him ignoring life while he recovers, when I am recovering from the problem he created. I need the break, he played around for years, and I'm desperate for relief. I now understand where so many RA's are handed divorce papers after they finally decide to do the right thing.
Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
Wamama, it's not AA that forces the addict to focus so much on recovery.
That's recovery.
AA is just a roadmap.
So is Al-Anon.